I've answered more than a million questions at workshops, online and in my book. Here's a comprehensive list of questions and where you can find your answer. If you can't find your answer, click here to ask a question .
The top 200 questions I am ever asked are indexed here and in my book Sex With the Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered .
CURRENT SEX QUESTION TOPICS: Female Ejaculation / Squirting | Female Pelvic Muscles | G Spot | Chest, Breasts & Nipples | Penis | Balls, Perineum & Male Pelivic Muscles | Anal Anatomy | Body Image | Health & Wellness | Safer Sex | Medical Care | Domestic Violence | Her Orgasm | His Orgasm | Foreplay | Fingers, Hands & Hand Jobs | Oral Sex | Intercourse | Anal Sex | Keeping it Hot | Positions | Sex Toys | Vulva / Vagina | Working in the Field of Sex
FEMALE EJACUALTION / SQUIRTING
Can all women ejaculate? [page 27 ] What is female ejaculate composed of? [page 28 ] Why do some women squirt during orgasm and others do not? [page 29 ] How do the women in adult films squirt so much liquid? [page 32 ] How can I learn to ejaculate? [page 32 ] I hate getting the bed wet. Is there any way I can stop myself from ejaculating? [page 33 ]
FEMALE PELVIC MUSCLES
What are Kegels? [page 37 ] I have heard that once a woman has a baby she is loose down there? [page 39 ] If these muscles are so wonderful then why have I never heard of them? [page 41 ] How can women build strength in her pelvic muscles? [page 42 ] Exercise for Stronger Orgasms What are ben-wa balls?
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G SPOT
What is my G-spot and where is it? [page 20 ] Why is it called the G-spot? [page 21 ] Does everyone have a G-spot? [page 21 ] How do you find your G-spot? [page 21 ] What is the difference between a clitoris and a G-spot? [page 22 ] Is the G-spot in the same place for all women? [page 23 ] You need to turn on to be able to feel the G-spot? [page 23 ] How do you know if you have found the G-spot? [page 23 ] I think I found my G-spot but it was only ok (not mind blowing) was that really my G-spot? [page 23 ] What if you cannot find your G-spot? [page 24 ] When being aroused with my G-spot why do I feel like I have to pee? [page 25 ]
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CHEST, BREASTS & NIPPLES
I hear about creams that can increase the size of breasts, do these really work? [page 50 ] My man loves boobs. Sometimes a little too much. How can I get him to be gentler? [page 51 ] I know my girlfriend likes to have her breasts touch but why is it that sometimes she will shy away from me? [page 51 ] Are inverted nipples sensitive to touch? [page 52 ] Do guys like to have their nipples licked and sucked? [page 52 ]
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PENIS
I heard circumcised guys are cleaner than uncircumcised guy? [page 58 ] Which part of the penis is most sensitive? [page 58 ] How long is the average penis hard and soft? [page 62 ] Does size matter? [page 62 ] How do you make sex with a small penis feel good for a woman? [page 64 ] Can a penis be too long for a vagina? [page 66 ] Do you have any tips if your partner is very large? [page 66 ] Is a curved penis better than a straight one? [page 67 ] Does having a pierced penis make sex better? [page 67 ] Spinal Cord Injuries & Erections
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BALLS, PERINEUM & MALE PELVIC MUSCLES
Does it feel good when you squeeze a guys balls? [page 70 ] What exactly is “blue balls” and do men really get this? [page 72 ] What is the perineum and where is it located? [page 74 ] Why do I get little response from my guy when I touch his perineum? [page 76 ] Is the perineum as pleasurable of a spot on a woman as it is on a man? [page 76 ] Exercise for Stronger Orgasms Where is the prostate located? [page 76 ] Where is a guy’s G-spot? [page 77 ]
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ANAL ANATOMY
How clean is the average person’s butt hole? [page 82 ] How dangerous is it to put your mouth on someone’s anus? [page 82 ] Why do people like anal sex? [page 83 ] Can women orgasm from anal sex? [page 84 ] How much anal stimulation do men and/or women like? [page 85 ] If we are having anal sex will he actually be touching poop inside my body? [page 88 ] Is there any way to sort of rinse out my butt before anal sex? [page 88 ] Are you not supposed to mix vaginal and anal body fluids? [page 89 ]
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BODY IMAGE
How can I project sexiness if I am not happy with my body? [page 91 ] I'm a handsome guy that just happens to be handicapped and in a wheelchair. I've tried using the online dating stuff and the girls seem interested until they find out I'm in a wheelchair then they stop talking. Any advice on how I could get and keep them interested? [page 93 ] How can I get rid of stretch marks? [page 95 ] How do I get over my hang-ups about my big thighs? [page 95 ] What are some of the ways you were able to overcome feeling shame? [page 97 ] I think my pussy smells bad. What should a woman’s body smell like? [page 98 ] Do you recommend shaving or waxing? [page 101 ] How can I get my girlfriend to shave or wax? [page 103 ]
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HEALTH & WELLNESS
How many times a week should a couple have sex in a normal, healthy sex life? [page 105 ] How can I boost my sex drive? [page 106 ] Antidepressants killed my sex drive. What can I do? [page 107 ] Does your sex drive change during your period? [page 110 ] Do those aphrodisiac creams made for women really work? [page 111 ] How can you have an orgasm when you are drunk? [page 111 ] Why do I need to be drunk in order to have sex? [page 112 ]
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SAFER SEX
What is the best condom for both men and women’s pleasure? [page 113 ] I know I'm always supposed to use condoms but I think they're giving me an infection. Am I crazy? [page 115 ] How safe are condoms for preventing HIV infection? [page 116 ] What are the statistics on lesbian transmissions of HIV? [page 117 ] What is a dental dam? [page 118 ] When can a couple be certain about practicing unprotected sex? [page 120 ] I have a nail biting and cuticle biting habit. Can I get sick or get an infection if I put my fingers inside my lover? [page 122 ]
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MEDICAL CARE
How To Find A Sex Positive Doctor Anti-depressants killed my sex drive. What can I do? [B ] Sex & back pain? Why do some women get bladder infections after sex? [page 123 ] UTI Fact Sheet
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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
For the Young Peeps in Your Life....
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HER ORGASM
What exactly is a female orgasm? [page 124 ] How do you know if you are having an orgasm? [page 124 ] Are there different types of female orgasms? [page 125 ] Is it difficult or impossible for some women to have an orgasm? [page 125 ] How can I achieve an orgasm? [page 126 ] Simple Way to Have a Bigger Orgasm How can I guarantee an orgasm during sex? [page 129 ] How can you tell if a woman is faking an orgasm? [page 129 ] How normal is it for a woman to need to be touched on her clit in order to orgasm? [page 131 ] Is a clitoral orgasm really different from a vaginal orgasm? [page 132 ] What is the best way for me to bring my lady to orgasm? What is the best way to stimulate the G-spot? [page 137 ]
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HIS ORGASM
What techniques do you recommend to stimulate a man to orgasm? [page 138 ] Simple Way to Have a Bigger Orgasm What is the best way to handle a guy who is having a difficult time getting it up? [page 139 ] What can you do to keep a guy’s erection while using condom? [page 140 ] How can I get him hard more than once in a night? [page 146 ] Is he quick on the trigger? What does it mean if your male partner takes forever to orgasm? [page 147 ] How much fluid is to be expected from ejaculation exactly? [page 148 ]
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FOREPLAY
Why don’t the men I encountered understand that foreplay is a very important part of a sexual encounter? [page 151 ] How do you get someone to kiss you with out slobbering all over you? How do you get them to kiss more gently? [page 154 ] Where do you start with foreplay? [page 155 ]
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FINGERS, HANDS & HAND JOBS
I feel like I have become so used to orgasming with my boyfriends fingers on my clit that I don’t think I can come any other way. Any suggestions? [page 159 ] When you are giving a hand job, why does the guy get so sensitive after they orgasm? [page 161 ] What is the best technique for a hand job? [page 161 ] I have heard that twisting your hand during a hand job is a good technique, what do you think? [162 ] Can you explain how I can use my hands on his balls? [page 164 ] I have always avoided giving hand jobs on the theory that guys can do it to themselves better. Is that true? [page 165 ]
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ORAL SEX
You may be an oral outlaw! What tips can I give my lover in order to get good oral sex? [page 167 ] How do I get my lover to enjoy going down on me? [B ] How do you keep pubic hair from getting in your mouth while performing oral sex? [B ] How can I orgasm while receiving oral sex? [B ]BR>
Does the person giving head feel pleasure when giving oral sex? [B ] Is it safe to go down on your girlfriend with a menthol cough drop in your mouth? [B ] When you go down on a woman, do most women enjoy penetration with a tongue? [B ] I really don't like the smell of vagina and I heard the taste isn't very good either. Is there any kind of advice you can give me to get over my hang-up with cunnilingus? [B ] Does a dental dam make oral sex less pleasurable for the receiver? [B ] Is oral sex safer than vaginal sex? [B ] How can I keeping my momentum going while giving oral sex? [B ] Is there a secret to making a guy come quickly when you are getting tired of giving a blowjob? [B ] Does a man prefer it if you go up and down with your tongue or around and around? [B ] What is the best way to deep-throat his penis or at least take as much as possible without gagging? [B ] If you orgasm by way of oral sex is it acceptable to cum inside your girlfriend’s mouth? Should you warn her? [B ] Should one spit or swallow during oral sex? [B ] Is there something a man can do to make his cum sweeter and less bitter? [B ] Does licking a man’s balls have any benefit? [B ]
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INTERCOURSE
How often do women orgasm during penetrative sex with their partner? [B ] What sexual position optimizes clitoral stimulation? [B ] What is their secret of women who orgasm from penetration alone? [B ] How can I learn to stay present and have an orgasm with a partner? [B ] What is the average time for sex? [B ] What is the most innovative new sexual position? [B ] What is the best sex position for a woman to achieve an orgasm? [B ] I prefer to be on top but it seems guys prefer other positions. Any suggestions for how to make both of us happy? [B ] What is a man’s favorite sexual position? [B ] Pain during or after penetration? I like to have sex 'doggy style' more often than I do at the moment because my wife complains that it is painful. Is that common? [B ] Every time we have sex in the doggie style we have all this air build up and my pussy makes funny sounds. How can we do this position with out that happening? [B ] Sometime during sex my partner cannot stay inside me. He slips out. How can I help? [B ] What is the best way to do double penetration? [B ] What happens after I have an orgasm and it gets dry but the guy is not ready to cum and needs to keep going? [B ] How can you have sex in the water with out getting water up your vagina and losing lubrication? [B ] Is it safe for a guy to spit on himself to lube up before intercourse? Will the germs in his saliva cause a problem in the vagina? [B ] If your vagina burns after sex (even after peeing) what can help? [B ]
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ANAL SEX
My best friend loves receiving anal sex and says it feels good. I am afraid it would hurt. Does anal sex actually feel good? [B ] Do you have any tips for a person who is having anal sex for the first time? [B ] Do women actually orgasm from anal sex? [B ] What are some ways to relax before anal sex? [B ] What is the difference between an anal orgasm and a clitoral or vaginal orgasm? [B ] Can anal sex feel as good for women as it does for men? [B ] Is it safe for pregnant women to have anal sex? [B ] Why are guys so obsessed with anal sex? [B ] Why do guys love having a finger up their butt? [B ] Why are some guys so afraid of receiving anal sex? [B ] If a guy likes to have a finger in his butt should I be worried that he is gay? [B ] How can I convince my guy to let me play with his anus without freaking him out? [B ] How can I convince my partner to have anal sex with her? [B ] How can I have anal sex without pain? [B ] I had anal sex while drunk once but without being drunk I am terrified of doing it. How can I get over this fear? [B ] I have had anal sex only once and it was very painful and I totally freaked. We were having vaginal sex and supposedly he slipped and penetrated my butt. Will it hurt like that every time? [B ] Is it unclean or dangerous to go from vaginal sex to anal sex? [B ] What diseases can you get from anal sex? [B ] What safety precautions could be taken when practicing anal sex? [B ] How can you assure cleanliness (no poop) during anal sex? [B ] I have heard a person will have trouble pooping after anal sex. Is this true? [B ] Does your butt get stretched out from having anal sex? [B ] What is the best position for anal sex? [B ]
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KEEPING IT HOT
Inspire him to try new things? Sexy Makeover! Tune in to what’s important.
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POSITIONS
Mission to Reposition
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SEX TOYS
What is a vibrator? [B ] Toy Review: Flashlight Vibrator Can I become addicted to my sex toy? Is it true that once you use a vibrator, sex just doesn’t do it for you? Will a vibrator ruin me for my boyfriend? [B ] If you are a virgin, will using a sex toy ruin sex for you? [B ] Are there any toys that can guarantee orgasm? [B ] Which type of texture on a sex toy provides the most pleasure? What is the best toy to travel with? [B ] What is The Rabbit? Why are some sex toys so unattractive? [B ] Why are some sex toys so expensive? [B ] Can a vibrator be too strong? [B ] Can your clitoris get sore from using a vibrator too much? [B ] I need a tremendous amount of pressure on my clitoral area to achieve orgasm, such as a hard piece of wood like a table edge. Are there any sex toys that might be able to work my clit like this? [B ] How To Introduce Toys to Your Partner How do I approach my spouse about sex toys without making him feel insecure? [B ] Can I use my vibrator on my guy? [B ] I want to surprise my girlfriend with a sex toy. How do I pick one out for her? [B ] Do G-spot toys really work and, if so, how do I use one? [B ] Why can I only have a G-spot orgasm with my Nubby G? [B ] What is a dildo? [B ] Is bigger always better when it comes to a dildo? [B ] How do you choose a dildo? [B ] Are glass sex toys safe? Why do people need lube? [B ] Is lubrication bad for you? [B ] Can silicone lube cause vaginal infections? Is there any way to keep my lube from drying out and getting sticky? [B ] What types of lube are safe to use with sex toys? [B ] Why would a woman want to wear a strap-on harness? [B ] How do I pick the right harness for my body? [B ] Why are harnesses such an elaborate contraption? [B ] Is it normal for guys to like it when girls use strap-ons on them? I love the idea of my girl riding my wagon if you know what I mean. I want to receive a good fucking by a woman with a strap on! Am I normal? [B ] What is a butt plug? [B ] How do you use anal beads? [iB ] Can I use my vibrator in my butt? [B ] How far can a person penetrate anally? [B ] What is a cock ring & how do you use one? [B ] How does a cock ring work? [B ] Do cock rings really keep guys harder longer? [B ] Are cock rings pleasurable for both partners? [B ] What is a pump? [B ]
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VULVA / VAGINA
Where is the clitoris? [page 5 ] What is the average length of the clitoris? [page 6 ] How deep is my love? Opps! I meant clitoris. What is a hymen? [page 12 ]
What is the perineum and where is it located? [page 15 ] I have a beautiful vagina but a short vaginal canal. How do I let a potential lover know before we have sex? [page 18 ] Why is it that sometimes during sex with my guy will hit the back of my vagina and I get a sharp pain? [page 18 ]
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WORKING IN THE FIELD OF SEX
How did you get into this business? Did you take classes to become an expert? Who sells sex toys? Interview with Dana Corey I think I want to sell sex toys?
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FEMALE EJACUALTION / SQUIRTING