I was never scared of natural menopause. I embraced the idea. I trusted my body would do what it needed to do to care for me. I sought out the nuggets of truth that women who had experienced it would share with me. I dismissed the sorry ideas that it was bad or changes a woman’s value.
When I was diagnosed with uterine cancer, I faced abrupt surgical menopause. I felt ripped off. I wish I could have experienced the slow roll into this life cycle. But I only had two choices– abrupt surgical menopause or allow my body to die, so I came to terms with it. This surgery and experience were powerful. The changes were a part of my extension of life. It means more for me, not less. And with that, I wrote…
The New Menopause Manifesto
Don’t listen to old myths about how the body changes with menopause. I am here to tell you the truth.
The truth is, you become more beautiful.
You become stronger. As strong as you wish to be.
You become a better listener.
Your brain grows 2.267 inches in diameter. It expands to make room for everything you have learned so far and everything you have yet to learn. (Need proof, menopausal individuals use more lube– that’s just smart for anyone of any age.)
You grow big, golden balls! Nads that make weak individuals fear you and strong individuals desire you.
Fuck hot flashes. The truth is that you get hot in every way. Sometimes your skin sizzles, and you radiate warmth to those around you.
Plants and animals grow fonder of you.
Everything you cook tastes better.
Finally, I am not sure I am supposed to share this, but the government issues you a secret license to “dispose of” both pedophiles and those who mistreat animals.
This is what really happens during menopause.
-Ducky DooLittle, written Oct 2017